Ahh it is January 2023. During the last published article, Sha’Carri Richardson was sport’s public enemy number 1, the pandemic was in full roar and Joey Biden had only been president for a few months. Fast-forward to the present day and a few things have changed. The U.S. is spending billions to fund a war between Russia and Ukraine, student loan forgiveness hasn’t quite happened as widely as hoped, inflation is sky-high, and we are in a deep recession. Fear not, the StereoBros are here to save the day and provide you with a 2k23 discussion guide. Better yet, a list of topics to avoid in order to flourish in your professional and personal lives. These topics have been beaten to death and are guaranteed to ruin most intergender conversations. They should be avoided at all costs. Let’s dive in shall we?
Discussion of dating prices and barriers
Way back when we discussed $200 dates, it was a budding, semi-new topic. Pre-Covid, there were price expectations on everything from gas to lamb champs, and most people tried to stay within their price comfort zones. Social media had many people confused as to what dating looked like. The insecure tried to fined security in arbitrary dating rules, and some women ruined dating pools by living out their food dreams via the pockets of their underprepared suitors. Post-Covid, dating has exhausted a lot of our emotional senses and this inflation has nuked our pockets. Every “expert” with a platform has beaten this topic into exhaustion and there are two schools of thoughts for men. It is either you ain’t tricking if you got it, or “nah she ain’t getting me, I’m avoiding brunch scammers.” A lot of women just want a well-planned date without the automatic expectation of pelvic pounding just because a man courted her. A lot of men don’t want to be used for a hot meal. Here is the solution for men: plan the date, pick a spot within your budget. For women: only accept dates from men you have a genuine interest in.
Discussions of BBLs
The augmented body and the path to social media fame have become the preferred career path for many women. There are probably way more women who have not gotten BBLs and don’t make a living off of presenting their bodies to the interwebs. Until we have exact stats or become stakeholders in hospitals, let’s leave these conversations alone. As men you won’t win the conversation (e.g., Murda Mook vs Amber Rose), and you gain little by sharing your opinion. There are women and both sides of the coin, just find one within your comfort zone. The toxic-judgmental man label isn’t worth the clarification.
Discussions of body counts
Now this one is controversial and results vary by age bracket. For the 20 somethings that are not focused on marriage and committed relationships, this probably won’t come up in conversation. For the early 30 somethings it might come up in a Carfax. For the 35+ crowd, there is a general assumption that the numbers no longer matter. As men, you have to understand how this will be interpreted by a woman, and understand that you either will not get an honest answer or will stir guilt/trauma/insecurity in some women. It doesn’t help that there are a plethora of platforms and men that spend time discussing women’s bodies and body counts in ways that make black and brown women look bad. Some call it calls for accountability, others call it attacks on women. This is not the time to get labeled a “insert the name of any viral man who discusses women” jr. for the sake of principle and at the risk of cancellation. There are other questions you can ask if you need to get comfortable with a woman’s sexual past prior to committing to her.
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