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2k23 discussion topics to avoid

K B — Sat, 07 Jan 2023 21:54:26 +0000

Ahh it is January 2023. During the last published article, Sha’Carri Richardson was sport’s public enemy number 1, the pandemic was in full roar and Joey Biden had only been president for a few months. Fast-forward to the present day and a few things have changed. The U.S. is spending billions to fund a war between Russia and Ukraine, student loan forgiveness hasn’t quite happened as widely as hoped, inflation is sky-high, and we are in a deep recession. Fear not, the StereoBros are here to save the day and provide you with a 2k23 discussion guide. Better yet, a list of topics to avoid in order to flourish in your professional and personal lives. These topics have been beaten to death and are guaranteed to ruin most intergender conversations. They should be avoided at all costs. Let’s dive in shall we? Discussion of dating prices and barriers Way back when we discussed $200 dates, it was a budding, semi-new topic. Pre-Covid, there were price expectations on everything from gas to lamb champs, and most people tried to stay within their price comfort zones. Social media had many people confused as to what dating looked like. The insecure tried to fined security in arbitrary dating rules, and some women ruined dating pools by living out their food dreams via the pockets of their underprepared suitors. Post-Covid, dating has exhausted a lot of our emotional senses and this inflation has nuked our pockets. Every “expert” with a platform has beaten this topic into exhaustion and there are two schools of thoughts for men. It is either you ain’t tricking if you got it, or “nah she ain’t getting me, I’m avoiding brunch scammers.” A lot of women just want a well-planned date without the automatic expectation of pelvic pounding just because a man courted her. A lot of men don’t want to be used for a hot meal. Here is the solution for men: plan the date, pick a spot within your budget. For women: only accept dates from men you have a genuine interest in. Discussions of BBLs The augmented body and the path to social media fame have become the preferred career path for many women. There are probably way more women who have not gotten BBLs and don’t make a living off of presenting their bodies to the interwebs. Until we have exact stats or become stakeholders in hospitals, let’s leave these conversations alone. As men you won’t win the conversation (e.g., Murda Mook vs Amber Rose), and you gain little by sharing your opinion. There are women and both sides of the coin, just find one within your comfort zone. The toxic-judgmental man label isn’t worth the clarification. Discussions of body counts Now this one is controversial and results vary by age bracket. For the 20 somethings that are not focused on marriage and committed relationships, this probably won’t come up in conversation. For the early 30 somethings it might come up in a Carfax. For the 35+ crowd, there is a general assumption that the numbers no longer matter. As men, you have to understand how this will be interpreted by a woman, and understand that you either will not get an honest answer or will stir guilt/trauma/insecurity in some women. It doesn’t help that there are a plethora of platforms and men that spend time discussing women’s bodies and body counts in ways that make black and brown women look bad. Some call it calls for accountability, others call it attacks on women. This is not the time to get labeled a “insert the name of any viral man who discusses women” jr. for the sake of principle and at the risk of cancellation. There are other questions you can ask if you need to get comfortable with a woman’s sexual past prior to committing to her. Did we miss any topics? Did we get this wrong? If so, drop a comment.

Sha’Carri vs. thee Jamaican trio and the world

K B — Sun, 22 Aug 2021 20:32:07 +0000

Yes, yes, I know. It has been way too long since an article has been posted to this amazing website. In my defense, the podcast has been cooking and dropping consistently. We also have a ton of merch for your purchasing pleasure (shameless plug). Now that we got that out of the way, let’s talk about our good sister Sha’Carri Richardson. Ms. Richardson was poised to compete for Olympic glory in Tokyo this summer, but that was derailed when she failed a drug test and was suspended. That suspension caused her to miss her main race, in addition to her being left off of the women’s relay team. She admitted to smoking weed after the loss of her mom (which she found out about from a reporter). Black twitter and IG battled over whether her suspension was racial, and even cited the fact that some white athletes sell CBD products and still compete in the Olympics. Regardless of how you feel or felt about the circumstances, you probably felt hyped to hear about her return in a race against the Jamaicans (who dominated the games) this weekend. The lead up to the race was great. IG promo, hot takes and sound bites. It made you feel like she was invincible. There was also a good amount of track athletes who said she was probably the fourth best in her class and that she would get smoked (pun intended) in a race against the Jamaican women. I tried to brush it off as pro-dancehall propaganda, but… those people were right. Sha’Carri came in last (ninth) and the Jamaican women swept the top three spots. To make it worse, sound bites started to circulate that made it seem like she was still trash talking in defeat. Take this one for example: It seems like the narrative being spun is that she is all talk and no action. That she is foul-mouthed and low on sportsmanship. There is another less circulated interview that took place after she had the opportunity to relax after the race: I think the takeaways here are: 1) Sha’Carri got smoked by better prepared competitors 2) she is working to be the best version of herself 3) she does have grace and sportsmanship 4) she is humble and confident 5) she will be back. Let the memes and jokes fly, but let’s also see where she goes next. Drop a comment below and let us know your thoughts.

3 Truths about Ruth

K B — Tue, 22 Sep 2020 14:13:53 +0000

Last week, Ruth Bader Ginsburg passed away from complications of cancer. She is well regarded and celebrated as a trailblazer in a conservative profession. From becoming the first female law professor at Rutgers Law or the first female law professor tenured at Columbia law, her academic and professional accolades cannot be diminished. She did her thing. She was a staunch advocate for gender equality and that was reflected in many of her judicial opinions and sound bites off of the bench. In summary, I respect her body of work and her perserverance.

Now that we got the fluffy stuff out of the way, we also need to recognize her legacy and view it in totality. A lot of people of color celebrated her and lionized her. I've even seen people refer to her as the "Notorious RBG". I don't blame these people, most of them don't understand the law or the job of a Supreme Court justice. I'm not hire to vilify Ms. Ginsburg (she is from Brooklyn after all), but I want to offer a more complete picture of her career and who she was, so that people get a better understanding of who she was.

She is notorious all right, for the lack of black law clerks hired under.

In 13 years on the D.C. Circuit, and over 25 as an Associate Justice of the Supreme Court, she hired one, that's right one black law clerk. These law clerks go on to have important and well-regarded careers. She had a lot of time to hire more, but did not. Even if you argue that her focus was women, why didn't she hire more black women? She was asked about her Circuit Court hiring record during her SCOTUS confirmation and said: "if you confirm me for this job, my attractiveness to black candidates is going to improve." One hire might be deemed an improvement, right? Justice Sotomayor probably has the most diverse hiring record on the current panel of justices, but it is important to note that even conservative members like Justice Kavanaugh have been known to hire black law clerks. Don't ask me if those are skinfolk or kinfolk, I don't know. But I do know that he also goes to black law school groups to urge them to apply to clerkships...

She famously dissed Kaepernick.

When Colin Kaepernick decided to kneel in protest of police brutality, the reactions were mixed. Some called it disrespect, others called it bold. What did RBG say? "I think it’s dumb and disrespectful. I would have the same answer if you asked me about flag burning. I think it’s a terrible thing to do, but I wouldn’t lock a person up for doing it. I would point out how ridiculous it seems to me to do such an act." She later apologized after she received some backlash, but that moment was a rare glimpse into her more conservative side.

She joined more conservative opinions than you know of.

RBG is known for writing some key opinions during her tenure at SCOTUS (too many to name here). A lot of her judicial activism was centered on gender rights, which makes sense considering the uphill battle she fought to dominate law school and get equal pay and equal employment access in the 1960s. However, we still need to view her career in totality. As a Circuit Court judge, she voted with two conservatives Robert Bork and Antonin Scalia, more than anyone else during her time there. She also joined conservative opinions at the SCOTUS level. Such as cases limiting a criminal defendant's rights with respect to supervised release, reversed the convictions of some Bridgegate defendants and sided with the Trump administration's efforts to speed up deportations of asylum seekers. These are a few examples, but it is important to view her record in totality.

We don't have to agree as people, we don't have to agree as a nation, but we should view our living and departed legends in totality independent of narratives created that skew them in either direction. As people of color, it is important to pick our hereos and shereos wisely. Black women may have benefited from Justice Ginsburg's efforts and they should appreciate that. However, I would stop short of lionizing her without considering her full career and record. In the information age, we should do more than post RIP for likes without 10 minutes of research into a person's life.

Drop a comment and let us know your thoughts.

Sources:

Ginsburg on Kaep

RBG's conservatism

RBG's hiring practices

RBG's complicated legacy

She’s still a human…

K B — Wed, 12 Aug 2020 13:56:51 +0000

Yesterday news broke that Democratic candidate Joe Biden had picked Senator Kamala Harris as his running mate and potential VP of ‘Merica. My feelings were admittedly mixed, because as I stated on my podcast, her prosecutorial record was in some ways reprehensible, as were some of her policies (Google her treatment of truants’ parents). I did not think she would win the democratic nomination, because I knew she would be criticized for her record. I did not think she would go a step further and go on a nationally syndicated radio show and state that she listened to 2pac while she was in college in the 80s, which was an absolute no-no. With that said, its time to face our current reality, this might be the best that we have and we have to push forward. Biden and Harris have voted for horrible legislation, and aren’t the poster children for all things right in Merica. We have to realize that they aren’t the poster child for all that is wrong either (see Trump for that). The "anybody but Trump" movement is proving that we are at a pivotal place as a nation. After talking to Le Rib yesterday, I realized an important point that I had been neglecting. Kamala Harris may be many things, good, bad and indifferent, but she’s still a human. She is capable of change and of righting her perceived wrongs. She definitely wasn’t the worst of the candidates in the race for the democratic nomination, and she has addressed many of her past policy shortcomings directly. She was also one of the few candidates who had a viable plan to help disabled Mericans. Its quite possible that this may be her moment to change her narrative. She is a soror of AKA, an HBCU alumna, a smart attorney and hopefully a woman on a mission to prove her doubters (myself included) wrong. She has the opportunity to pick up where Shirley Chisholm could have went, and to inspire the nation’s young women to go where they couldn’t relate to Hillary Clinton being. If Biden takes ill, Harris becomes president of the United States, and that would be a milestone in the country’s history. She just might effectuate policy changes, hell she might even free BMF (lmao, but really). Regardless of what I think she might do, she is definitely going to draw support from any number of the demographics that identify and relate to her. This all assumes that the dems actually win the election, and 45 actually leaves office without putting up a fight. If these things hold true, and we do in fact get Kamala Harris as VP of Merica, she will have the voice and platform to hold Biden and herself accountable to Black Merica. She can show the world the new her, and win over a lot of her critics. Human beings can evolve, and I hope this can be her evolution.

DMX, Snoop and the lack of legendary leadership

K B — Thu, 23 Jul 2020 14:05:28 +0000

On July 22, 2020, I witnessed one of my top three favorite Verzuz battles between two legends in hip hop, my spirit animal DMX, and the party starter Uncle Snoop. I have favorite songs from both artists (DMX -Slippin and Snoop – Cruising featuring Jadakiss, or Jadakiss featuring Snoop depending on who you ask) and thought it would be a landslide in Snoop’s favor when I heard the battle announced. I was thrilled to see DMX entertain, although his catalog is less party and more pain. Both men showed mutual respect for each other and for their respective crafts. What I did not hear a lot of was a respect for women.

Some of the songs performed reminded of songs from yesteryear at a time when the feminist movement and the outcry against misogyny in music was a bit louder. I heard a few bitches and hoes in the songs and remembered C. Dolores Tucker and others being vilified as hip hop haters in the early 90s. Fast forward to 2020, and hip hop has become a world of pill popping, hardcore drug use, fucking on bitches and using women for sexual favors. No, its not every song. Yes, you can still find quality music that skips these themes. But the stuff that is force fed to us, and the artists that are force fed to us, personify all that is wrong with hip hop. DMX and Snoop could have used the platform to do better and to show a reference for a time when hip hop was about quality and less about a race to the bottom of the talent pool.

Either man could have gotten to a point where a controversial lyric was looming, and said you know what “back in the day I wrote this, but now that I have daughters and a new perspective, I’m going to clean that lyric up or not even say it anymore.” See, legends lead, and use wisdom and experience to show the youth that evolution and the progression of a man is possible. Last night could have been a teachable moment, a triumph. Most of my friends loved the battle, but regardless of their gender, they acknowledged that there were cringy moments because of the lyrics recited, and the fervor with which they were recited. The common reaction was “damn, he really still spits that lyric?”

Our culture won’t evolve to respect our black women, until the youth see that it is cool to do so. The imagery in our culture needs to return to celebrating women with clothes on, embracing a woman for her potential and her present, and protecting her as the cradle of civilization and the key to our communities. Many men don’t have father figures and turn to hip hop to get that leadership. If all they hear is fuck bitches get money, then that’s what they will aspire to. If most women think that they have to diminish their light to attract men, then they will do so. In 2020, we need more from our legends in hip hop. Why, because legends lead, and the black community is a little short on leaders now.

Juneteenth Op-Ed by Ken Montgomery

K B — Fri, 19 Jun 2020 00:00:00 +0000

This current time in history may appear to be new ground for Black people but it isn’t. Everyday is JUNETEENTH and if it isn’t it should be. As a people we are perpetually in the crosshairs of Europeans, White American’s, and the Western world. Not only are we in their crosshairs we are on the hamster wheel of their predatory systems, personal fear, terror and hatred. Our pain and despair only seems to heighten the animus, violence and terror against us. White supremacy has no conscience and the more we cry and the more we attempt to be politically correct and reasonable in our response to its purposive terror, the more oppressive and violent white supremacy becomes. Our emotions only feed it. Crying on television, accumulating wealth and material goods, seeking a seat at the table, marching and protesting with white people will not get white supremacy off of our backs. In this late stage of capitalism and the current digital age we are on the world's stage trying to get our house together for the world to see with cliché’s abound. That’s a very dangerous place to be as a people. Appreciate the fact that our Black bodies more than any other resource in the world have helped to position America and other European nations as some of the most powerful nations in modernity. Restitution may be a great academic argument, but is a waste of time. How do you put a price tag on the bones of Black people that lay on the bottom of the Atlantic Ocean?, or the burned and decapitated bodies from those “Red Summers”?, or the dead bodies of those Black children overdosed on the heroin pandemic in Harlem, how much is that worth? My point is, too much damage has been done to calculate a numeric amount, and this level of devastation cannot be calculated with a dollar amount. My dollar amount would be everything that America and its allies have gained. Moreover, any reparations are only intended for the vacant conscience of America and less about Black liberation and freedom. Reparations would be weaponized to control and usurp the Black narrative. We don’t have a working ideology, as a result our communities are convinced that in order to find success in the face of a predatory system and people, we must get next to that predatory oppressor. All we end up accomplishing is reinforcing this idea of whiteness in Black face. There is nothing my enemy can offer me and nothing I want from them. Reparations will not change that dynamic and it will not do away with systemic and institutional Black oppression. The game changer to me is found in getting off of the world stage, closing the curtains and truly reflecting on our condition and becoming preoccupied with our existence and creating practical solutions for Black people to have meaningful lives. This requires Black people who are seeking true liberation and freedom to begin divesting not just their time and money but divesting their thoughts from European ideas. This means that as a community we will not be looking forward to the ideals of the Black entertaining elite and middle class. This means we will not be seeking a seat at the table with whiteness. It means that as a community we should be treating American and European ideals as if they were South Africa, and divesting first mentally. As Frantz Fanon stated on the last page of the Wretched of the earth, Black people should be preoccupied with innovating and creating through the lens of Blackness. As a result of the war waged on Blackness we have stopped one of our most formidable tools, which is Grassroots organizing. And no BLM is not grassroots Black organizing. In our communities we should be preoccupied with setting up our 15-25 year old members to form political parties. Those political parties should be driving the political participation and educational process involved in meaningful political participation on behalf of the community, not the church and outside political forces. Voting is simply an organizational tool, not a formidable response to Institutional and systemic white supremacy. Our educational and cultural default as a people should be preoccupied with creating a new political landscape and apparatus to meet the needs of the community. That will involve ridding the community of the current Black political leadership for the most part. In this digital age it would be necessary to pool information both online and offline that connects cities like Chicago to Brooklyn to the continent of Africa. As a community we should be preoccupied with nurturing our future political leaders from a very young age, if so we wouldn’t have political pretenders who are beholden to political parties and not Black people and Blackness. To achieve that level of organization and self determination requires that we curate our educational and cultural process. Supplemental community funded educational programs focused on a curriculum that introduces the children to John Clarke’s, Arthur Schomburg’s, Martin Delanye’s, David Walker’s,Ida B. Wells, Elaine Brown’s just to name a few. The educational and cultural journey should include the rich history of Black people and our contribution across the globe, not just America. This cultural and educational process should be intergenerational and represent the diversity and varying perspectives that exist in our community. We don’t need leaders, we need ideology. Ideology helps you determine what the community needs economically, it dictates our political participation. Ideology naturally imbeds accountability within and of course accountability to those outside of our community. When we control our educational and cultural process then we are not beholden by the false promises of integration and the dangerous commodification of our pain through american corporatization and the few handpicked replaceable Black people who work on behalf of corporate America in the name of “Black excellence”. When we control our educational and cultural process we will be able to see with clarity america’s tokenism. Only then will we not be moved by corporations and other American institutions making empty statements that are intended to distract you from their history of Black alienation. Let everyday be JUNETEENTH. Let us pick up the blueprint and roadmap of great ideas founded in Blackness left by those elders who courageously thought and fought. Only true reflection, critical thinking and action will prepare us for this moment in history. It must be done through the lens of Blackness not whiteness.

Thee Book of Lawrence Part Trois (three)

K B — Fri, 17 Apr 2020 15:24:39 +0000

On April 12, 2020 Insecure returned for another season. I won't lie I love the show. I watch it with le rib and we laugh and discuss dating, living as an 80s baby in a weird and changing world, and all things good and bad about the show and its characters. For those that don't know, I'm not here to explain who is who, you have to watch the show to appreciate it. I also like succinct pieces, and having to provide all that background would defeat the purpose of a short article. Let's get to it.

I wrote the book of Lawrence parts I and II a while ago (link to part II here), and summarized my thoughts on the Issa/Lawrence dynamic. That was two years ago, and I recently asked women on my insta poll why they hate Lawrence and received responses like:

"Y'all swear he is yall king, he is trash"
"He acted foul after the breakup"
"He never challenges himself and take the easy road when it comes to women"
"He is a fuckboy, elite status fuckboy"
"He did Issa wrong"

I've even seen articles stating that Daniel is or was Issa's best shot at love. Yet where is Issa's king Daniel? The curveball here is that every woman in a relationship that I asked is either neutral on Lawrence or does not hate him. Most of the slander came from single women. I've asked some of them to explain their disdain for Lawrence, and it boils down to nothing more than one of the following: 1) he acted immature by moving on from Issa, or 2) he acted foul or like a fuckboy. What I have not seen is any tangible, factual reasons or rationale as to why this wholesome guy is so hated by our queens. There are a ton of characters that you could hate on the show for making poor choices or being bad people when it comes to their friendships. I am waiting for reasons as to why Lawrence should be one of them.

To the good guys, Lawrence represents progress, maturity, growth and stability. He found his way through a tough time, albeit with little support from his lady, he got cheated on, and still holds Issa in high enough esteem to care when her name is mentioned. I've said it before and I'll say it again, Lawrence would gladly offer the currently unemployed Issa the same support she denied him during her tough times (I predict that they are coming). The fact that he can still be respectful to Issa is a testament to that. He is employed, happily dating, and progressing. I don't think we can say the same for Issa or her new, portly boo affectionately known as "Carl Winslow" on Black Twitter.

To summarize and rehash my thoughts I'll leave you with this from the good book of Lawrence chapter 3:
Verse 1: "It hath be known to all, that the nobleman Lawrence is thee personification of the good guy who got away and moved on for a lot of women, but Issa, the meandering woman, she hath be the representation of the mistakes that many women hath made."
Verse 2: "Thus, many women will view Lawrence with contempt, due to their PTSD from failed relationships. They will loathe him and despise him. Yet, they will adore Issa, because misery is company, and a reflection of one's mistakes is comfort and reassurance."

Lettuce pray!!!!! Drop a comment below if you so chose.

Quarantine Survival Guide Part I

K B — Tue, 17 Mar 2020 16:11:45 +0000

Don't let the worldwide pandemic get you down. Power through it with some content suggestions curated by our team. Check out Part I below:

PatagonianLattes QuarantinenChill list

Movies

Menace II Society
Boyz n Da Hood
Contagion
28 Days Later
Two Can Play that Game
The Best Man
Love Jones
Ma
The Breakup
Jumping the Broom
The Temptations Movie
Five HeartBeats
Soul Food
Jumping the Broom

Shows

Black Monday
Ray Donovan
Snowfall
Copwatch
Suits
Blackish/Grownish/Mixedish
Madame Secretary
Designated Survivor
Law and Order (regular or CI, no SVU!!!)

Books

Richest Man in Babylon
The Alchemist
The Autobiography of Malcolm X
Black Faces in White Places
I Can't Make this Up
The 360 Leader
48 Laws of Power
The 50th Law
The Art of War

Blurred Lines

K B — Fri, 10 Jan 2020 03:11:12 +0000

Shoutout to the guys over at K A Psi. You guys just celebrated another year of existence. I’m cool with several Kappas, Nupes, bunnies, whatever you want to call them, and knew several before they shimmyed on down Diggs Lane to get their letters. The ones I know are a prideful bunch, but are stand up individuals and people that I call brother, friend and comrade. They all earned the right to wear their letters and are staunch advocates of disciplining perpetrators. Protecting your brand makes sense when you had to earn the right to rep that brand. Wearing greek letters is the confirmation of membership in fraternities and sororites with important historical legacies. There are people who want the accolades that come with greek life so much that they will fabricate stories or even membership in Black Greek Letter Organizations aka BGLOs. Imposters/perps who knowingly perp should be dealt with accordingly. But what if a person doesn't know that they are perpetrating? How should they be dealt with? Enter Lil Boosie, southern rapper, trapper and music mogul. He decided to rock a K A Psi sweater and caption the picture “getting Kappa Fresh.” The internets and IG went ham on him and called him every name under the sun. Some Kappas laughed others, called him a clown. I thought it was funny that Boosie did so, for one reason: Boosie probably doesn’t understand Black greek culture or rules. Can we hold him at fault for breaking rules that he doesn’t understand? I think not. No, it is not because I’m an Alpha, that I have sympathy. I’ve seen pictures of soccer moms rocking our para (Sidenote: DO NOT THROW AWAY OR DONATE PARA, GIVE IT TO A NEO). Should you become enraged if a random person walks by you in para, or should you offer to buy it off of them? I’ve seen grown men in sorority letters walking out of homeless shelters, and I wasn’t going to embarrass them. I had to assume that they didn’t know what they were wearing or doing. Let’s give Boosie the benefit of doubt, especially since it appears that he meant to pay homage not violate. As a street dude, he would give a civilian a pass for breaking street code. Should he not get the same pass? Based on the backlash, he should acknowledge his ignorance on his platform and apologize. “Wipe me down” is a Kappa stroll anthem and I’m sure the guys don’t want to cancel him over an attempted fashion statement. Boosie should not let his pride or ego get in the way of this moment to build a bridge with an important organization. I don’t think it is all on him to fix this, but I judging by IG, it looks like he’s one misstep away from buying a ticket on the cancel train. My last point is that the Black greek lines of discretion have become blurry in the information age. We post private information, we talk openly about sacred stuff, live public lives and allow certain people to enter a world that they would not have been able to years ago. As a council, we should think about ways to reinforce the discretion and core values that make the NPHC great. Otherwise, we cannot expect the respect of GDIs if we don’t give them organizations and members to respect. One of the best ways to earn that respect is to use teachable moments to teach. This is definitely one of those moments. UPDATE: Boosie apologized and asked to learn how to Shimmy. Dope outcome. (Cues Chris Brown - Heat)

When friendships fizzle out – Lil Fizz and the brocode

K B — Sat, 30 Nov 2019 00:15:35 +0000

Every major movie that I can remember had some type of life lesson. The lesson could be as simple as "you only get three great women in your life" or as deep as "be ready to leave anything or anyone in 30 seconds or less." If you grew up watching these movies, it instilled a sense of morality or value in you, well at least they did for me. One of the earliest lessons that I learned was to stick by your guys, grow with them, and trust only them, especially if you matured/evolved together. I still have the same core group of friends and have kept them most of my life. We know each other's secrets, and we guard those secrets, because of a sense of duty to do so called the "brocode." It's just what the brocode says to do, its rule 0 (full list coming soonish).

Another important rule is bros before hoes. Loosely translated that means do not put a woman before your brother. Why? Because for most men, a woman can be his biggest strength or his biggest weakness. You share and confide in your brother to gain perspective and objectively view her actions. Its unfathomable for your brother to take that same information about said woman and enter into a relationship with her. That is exactly what Lil Fizz did to Omarion.

They were bandmates in B2K and costars on LHHH. The mother of Omarion's children has been on the show and is now dating Lil Fizz. Another bandmate tried to counsel Fizz that his actions were wrong, and Fizz disregarded the advice. He chose to date his bandmate's ex woman and risk the cohesion and money of the entire band. To no surprise, Omarion is continuing his tour without Fizz or the other bandmates. Big bags lost, and for what??? For why? We are outnumbered 4:1 by women yet he chose that one? A shoulder to cry on became a pole to ride on. Salute to Omarion for taking the high road and not publicly slandering his childs' mother. She has exhibited some poor judgment and seems to think that her actions or beyond reproach. Nope, sorry, you're bugging miss.

As a survivor of a brocode violation, I can tell you that the initial shock does not go away quickly. You can never look at him or her the same because that breach of loyalty and the utter treachery ruins any trust that you may have had in him/her. I too like Omarion took the high road, and 86'd the friendship. Brocode exists for a reason, and violators should be prosecuted in the court of public opinion to the fullest extent. Anyone who says differently, is one text away from trying to pull an X-Man like Wolverine to take your Jean Grey.